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Getting past a lifetime of pain to become a "Real Girl"

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Beating It Back

I Will Not Fall Apart

December 8, 2022January 30, 2023 Debi1 Comment

Staying strong during the holiday season December is hard for many people. Some because of stressful family dynamics. Others because it reminds them of loved ones who are gone. For me, it is the anniversary of when my father abducted me on my 9th birthday. What followed is a large part of my upcoming book,… Continue reading I Will Not Fall Apart

Beating It Back

And it Keeps Going On

November 10, 2022January 21, 2023 DebiLeave a comment

It would be nice to think getting to a point where I could forgive myself would be the end of a story. Perhaps there would be a twinge now and then, but life should be great. What I have been learning is, yes, life is great. There are moments when the life fairly glows. Most… Continue reading And it Keeps Going On

Musings Of The Past

Overcoming Self-Injury

October 18, 2021January 20, 2023 DebiLeave a comment

Caution, possible triggers ahead I There came a time when I no longer tried to kill myself. Partially, I realized it was pointless. Whatever pain and brokenness I had needed solving while I was alive. Otherwise, I would just drag it with me to the afterlife. I was going to have to become whole at… Continue reading Overcoming Self-Injury

Foundations

Anchor

October 11, 2021January 20, 2023 Debi1 Comment

Learning to become my own reason for living  When I was a little girl, life was so chaotic. (Check out The Beginning and The Beginning part 2) It was hard to know what to trust. Who would not obliterate me. While, granted, most of that insecurity came from careful brainwashing from my father, there was… Continue reading Anchor

Musings Of The Past

De-Vilifying Old Behaviors

December 20, 2020January 19, 2023 DebiLeave a comment

copywrite 2020 Deborah Adams Sometimes a pint of Ben and Jerry’s is just ice cream I used to think that I was alone. I thought using food to gain some control or comfort was something that only existed on the fringes of normalcy. I felt pain, shame, and disgust over my behavior.  I have an… Continue reading De-Vilifying Old Behaviors

Musings Of The Past

THERAPY: CRUTCH OR CAST

October 13, 2020January 19, 2023 DebiLeave a comment

Deborah Adams I have spent most of my adult life in therapy. First, as a Junior in high school. Then, when my close friend was in a car accident and almost died when I was 19. I had, for lack of a better word, a nervous breakdown. I couldn’t function. Luckily for me, the owner… Continue reading THERAPY: CRUTCH OR CAST

Beating It Back

Willingness

September 15, 2020January 17, 2023 DebiLeave a comment

Why willingness? For several years I had the good fortune to be part of a wonderful weekly support group. Over time, I realized that I was resisting making the very changes I desired. Although I desired that change, there was something that I was not ready to give up. I wanted my life to be… Continue reading Willingness

Beating It Back

Prelude to Willingness

September 15, 2020January 17, 2023 DebiLeave a comment

Prelude to Willingness (written 2018) I have been in therapy since my junior year in high school, off and on. Well, more on than off. This incarnation I have been with my therapist for over twelve years.  By far the most time I have worked with anyone. Which was great, because it allowed me to start getting… Continue reading Prelude to Willingness

Foundations

The very beginning

September 6, 2020January 16, 2023 DebiLeave a comment

The beginning of Shame When I was four years old our family dog had a litter of puppies. They were these cute, snuggly fur balls. It was so much fun to play with them. They stayed in our screened in porch off the kitchen. One morning I woke up early. I was eager to play with the puppies,… Continue reading The very beginning

Foundations

Taken

September 6, 2020January 12, 2023 DebiLeave a comment

Although there were plenty of things that happened in-between, next I am going to tackle the biggest contributor to my toxic shame- being taken.

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