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Overcoming sexual, emotional, and psychological abuse

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Musings Of The Past

My Body’s Betrayal

December 13, 2022January 30, 2023 DebiLeave a comment

When Pain is a Source of Arousal When my father abducted me right after my 9th birthday, he had already been grooming me for at least 2 years. He left me with a group of 3 men and 2 women that I think of and refer to as THEY. They were true sadists. I do… Continue reading My Body’s Betrayal

Beating It Back

I Will Not Fall Apart

December 8, 2022January 30, 2023 Debi1 Comment

Staying strong during the holiday season December is hard for many people. Some because of stressful family dynamics. Others because it reminds them of loved ones who are gone. For me, it is the anniversary of when my father abducted me on my 9th birthday. What followed is a large part of my upcoming book,… Continue reading I Will Not Fall Apart

Musings Of The Past

Color Coded Feelings

November 29, 2022January 30, 2023 DebiLeave a comment

Learning how to uncomplicated emotions There was a time, in the last decade, when I was doing EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) therapy. We started with some simple drawing of my feelings, my inner picture of myself. We quickly realized that my perceptions of many feelings were seriously skewed. The therapist came up with… Continue reading Color Coded Feelings

Beating It Back

Random Reinforcement

November 22, 2022January 30, 2023 DebiLeave a comment

Waiting for me to get up. Copyright Debi Adams 2022 When you are training a dog, or in my case, a person, there are a variety of reinforcement techniques you can use. You can reward the dog, (or me as a child), every time they do something. With this, the dog, (or me as a… Continue reading Random Reinforcement

Foundations

Anchor

October 11, 2021January 20, 2023 Debi1 Comment

Learning to become my own reason for living  When I was a little girl, life was so chaotic. (Check out The Beginning and The Beginning part 2) It was hard to know what to trust. Who would not obliterate me. While, granted, most of that insecurity came from careful brainwashing from my father, there was… Continue reading Anchor

Beating It Back

Imperfect

October 5, 2020January 19, 2023 DebiLeave a comment

copyright Deborah AdamsI Last week I made a moderate mistake at work. I am a nanny for two little girls, 4 and 7. I had to drive the 7-year-old to her dance class at 5:15 and pick her up 45 minutes later. The only thing is, I pick her up on another day at 5:30.… Continue reading Imperfect

The Very Beginning part 2
Foundations

The Very Beginning part 2

September 28, 2020January 17, 2023 DebiLeave a comment

Copywriter: Deborah Adams Earlier, I wrote about when our puppies got off the screened-in porch and ate glass. Around that same time my father made of, apparently, several suicide attempts. I was 4 or 5. My mother had taken my little sister to our sitter’s house. I was in the kitchen washing dishes. One of my… Continue reading The Very Beginning part 2

Beating It Back

Prelude to Willingness

September 15, 2020January 17, 2023 DebiLeave a comment

Prelude to Willingness (written 2018) I have been in therapy since my junior year in high school, off and on. Well, more on than off. This incarnation I have been with my therapist for over twelve years.  By far the most time I have worked with anyone. Which was great, because it allowed me to start getting… Continue reading Prelude to Willingness

Foundations

The very beginning

September 6, 2020January 16, 2023 DebiLeave a comment

The beginning of Shame When I was four years old our family dog had a litter of puppies. They were these cute, snuggly fur balls. It was so much fun to play with them. They stayed in our screened in porch off the kitchen. One morning I woke up early. I was eager to play with the puppies,… Continue reading The very beginning

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