How I overcame the monster in my brain Until recently, and I am sure this does not surprise you; I was anxious all the time. Not just as a child. I had anxiety attacks daily. Something that felt like my old trauma often triggered them. Sadly, by the time of my first hospitalization, that felt… Continue reading Anxiety is No Way to Live
Debi Adams and Winning Over Shame – Allison In Wonderland Mental Health Podcast
Anger- Why We Would Rather Blame Ourselves
As shame has been fading away, I have found anger rising in its place. Anger has always been a tough one for me. Tough to feel, and tough to tolerate from others. So, I would turn that anger inward. Of course, that becomes depression. That depression held me captive. I made it all about me,… Continue reading Anger- Why We Would Rather Blame Ourselves
So, Debi, You Wrote a Book…
Why you want to read "Winning Over Shame--Overcoming Sexual, Emotional, and Psychological abuse. If you enjoy the articles on this blog, I believe you will gain much from reading the book. It covers my early childhood in more detail. It also follows me as I grew up saddled with the pain and shame of the… Continue reading So, Debi, You Wrote a Book…
My Body’s Betrayal
When Pain is a Source of Arousal When my father abducted me right after my 9th birthday, he had already been grooming me for at least 2 years. He left me with a group of 3 men and 2 women that I think of and refer to as THEY. They were true sadists. I do… Continue reading My Body’s Betrayal
I Will Not Fall Apart
Staying strong during the holiday season December is hard for many people. Some because of stressful family dynamics. Others because it reminds them of loved ones who are gone. For me, it is the anniversary of when my father abducted me on my 9th birthday. What followed is a large part of my upcoming book,… Continue reading I Will Not Fall Apart
Color Coded Feelings
Learning how to uncomplicated emotions There was a time, in the last decade, when I was doing EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) therapy. We started with some simple drawing of my feelings, my inner picture of myself. We quickly realized that my perceptions of many feelings were seriously skewed. The therapist came up with… Continue reading Color Coded Feelings
Random Reinforcement
Waiting for me to get up. Copyright Debi Adams 2022 When you are training a dog, or in my case, a person, there are a variety of reinforcement techniques you can use. You can reward the dog, (or me as a child), every time they do something. With this, the dog, (or me as a… Continue reading Random Reinforcement
And Now, Something Totally Different
My book ends with my first day of total happiness. For most of my life, even when I was happy, there was a heaviness behind it. There was always pain. A good day was when I woke up, vaguely disappointed that there was another day. On a bad day, it was a heavy, desperate sort… Continue reading And Now, Something Totally Different
Hog-tied by shame…Not!
It’s funny the things I can do when those evil voices in my head are usually silent. It is a hard won, and much appreciated silence. A silence that allowed me finally to finish my book, after 10 years of struggling to get it on the page. A lifetime reimagined and, most of the time,… Continue reading Hog-tied by shame…Not!
Winning Over Shame 